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KingoftheNorth14

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As you know I had an unexpected appendix removal on Sat and my wife has a scheduled surgery yesterday. I was supposed to be the helping hand around here till she got better but now we are both laid up. Then this happens last night…

Man idk what God has in store for me or what he is trying to work out in my life rn. I got a call at like 6:30pm last night from my daughter that was supposed to be at her friends house in the neighborhood, only a few blocks away having dinner…I get a call that she took my wife’s Audi (without a license-just a permit, and not on our insurance policy) and she took it a few miles down the road to her friends house and they were driving around and she got t-boned and totaled my wife’s Audi. Wtf…seriously man. Thank god she is ok and her friend was ok and the other drivers were ok but both cars were totaled. Idk what god is trying to work out in my life right now but it’s really hard to trust this is his plan.

I’m not telling the wife until today. I will let my daughter tell her what happened after I get the wife home from the hospital. I can’t have her in the hospital all night worrying about our daughter, the car, the finances…etc.

Bro everything just feels like one large mess right now. I’m trying to keep me shit together and not lose it. I’m trying to show my daughter love, and compassion but another part of me wants to lose my shit. I haven’t bc I know it is not worth it and I know she already is hurting and feeling bad enough about the situation. But I will have her explain to her mom what she did so she can take that responsibility to the table. She should have a much healthier respect for driving on the road now I’d say but to my expense unfortunately.
 
Sorry, brother. When it rains it pours. Hopefully the sun comes out soon for you. Keep your head, the tide will turn.
 
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Without aging myself, here’s my take since I have plenty of years exp….. when life feeds you that shit sammich, it is typically followed by something special. Here’s the rub….. that special is not always the following day, or even week. Patience is definitely tested in this.

Loosing your shit, no one could blame you, keeping your head for the betterment of the wife - wise and shows great restraint.

Chin up, know things always get better over time!
 
Thanks gents! Yeah I’ve been trying to remind my daughter that I love her and mistakes happen bc I know she is already beating herself up pretty hard. Freaking out wouldn’t help anyone rn. Just taking it a moment at a time. She will be breaking the news to the wife here in the next few hours after wife wakes up. She is resting rn as she should be.
 
KingoftheNorth14 said:
Thanks gents! Yeah I’ve been trying to remind my daughter that I love her and mistakes happen bc I know she is already beating herself up pretty hard. Freaking out wouldn’t help anyone rn. Just taking it a moment at a time. She will be breaking the news to the wife here in the next few hours after wife wakes up. She is resting rn as she should be.
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I truly respect your approach with dealing with the incident your daughter found herself in. I'm sure she's beating herself up enough that compounding the situation with aggressive undertones by using disciplinary style language would do more harm than good. So much going on right now in the family that a soft loving disposition sounds like the healthy approach. Everything will work out in the end, it always seems to with the right attitude. Sending you and your family some good positive energy my brother 🙏 ❤️
 
Life will challenge us in was that will make us question our very existence! But the struggle is only going to build a better and stronger man each time!!! Keep fighting , keep being a good husband, a good father! And you’ll leave behind a better legacy with your family as a strong and good man who didn’t let life take him down no matter how hard it got!
 
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After being bedridden since Friday which was 6 days after my appendicitis removal, I finally came back to the ER.

I haven’t been able to stand long enough to piss or even brush my teeth. Massive pain to my left side by one of the incisions.

I had to come back to the ER again cuz I’ve been in an insane amount of pain on my left side since Friday. I haven’t been able to get out of bed since then other than to piss or brush my teeth.

Results are in. No issues with. Bloodwork or urine. Ct scan shows I have a hematoma right there where the muscle was cut. I tore the muscle somehow then it bled causing the hematoma.

There is no abscess, infection, or hernia.

They said that any activity could have caused it to tear. Even getting out of bed could have caused it. Nothing needs to be done except I have to basically stay on bed rest until it heals.

I don’t have time for this shit either cuz we lose the rental car from the insurance on Monday and need to find my wife a new vehicle.
 
Carvana baby!!! Do it off your phone from bed…… have that shit delivered)))

Fukin BS though bro I feel your pain! I’m slowly upping my RBC while the whites lowering so my energy is returning but I’ll be damned if the left side of my back and hip, well away from spine incision aren’t killing me. Got the surgeons ok so I had a mild massage today and seemed to agrivate the area even more!
 
Bro, what a storm. It feels like a mess because physically and financially, it is. But spiritually, look at the miracles hidden in it. Your daughter made a terrible mistake, but she is alive to learn from it. You and your wife are laid up, but you are still here to guide your family through this.
Sometimes God allows the structures we rely on like our health our cars to shake so we can see what is truly unshakable. Your grace toward your daughter right now is sowing a seed that will change her life forever. You are doing a beautiful job handling an ugly situation. Standing with you in spirit today
 
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Bro, what a storm. It feels like a mess because physically and financially, it is. But spiritually, look at the miracles hidden in it. Your daughter made a terrible mistake, but she is alive to learn from it. You and your wife are laid up, but you are still here to guide your family through this.
Sometimes God allows the structures we rely on like our health our cars to shake so we can see what is truly unshakable. Your grace toward your daughter right now is sowing a seed that will change her life forever. You are doing a beautiful job handling an ugly situation. Standing with you in spirit today
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I appreciate that bro.

Funny thing is my wife and I haven’t spent this much continued time together since we were dating. We have re-connected in a way that has us feeling like there is a new and exciting level of love in our relationship. We have enjoyed each others company, and haven’t gotten annoyed with one another.compromise and compassionate to each other, trying to help each other while we are both trying to heal. It’s been very good for us even given the circumstances.
 
God can take anything that happens to us...even bad things...and use it to shape us and make us into better, more Christlike people IF we will let Him. This doesn’t mean God necessarily “causes” everything that happens to us; but sometimes He “allows” things to happen.

Disappointments and tragedies can teach us to turn in trust to God for the hope and comfort we need. These experiences can also teach us patience and make us more sensitive to others who are suffering. Hard times can cause us to draw nearer to God and family(in your case brotha your wife and daughter), demonstrating that Christ lives in us even in the midst of our difficulties, inconveniences, trials, and suffering. These experiences also help develop the right attitude for Christian growth. Adversity is often seen as a way to develop resilience, endurance, and compassion. Just as physical exercise tears down muscles to make them stronger, trials can refine one's character and deepen trust. Many people have said that as they walked through deep pain and tragedies, they’ve felt God closer to them than ever before.

@KingoftheNorth14 ......Praying for you and your fam my friend.
 
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God can take anything that happens to us...even bad things...and use it to shape us and make us into better, more Christlike people IF we will let Him. This doesn’t mean God necessarily “causes” everything that happens to us; but sometimes He “allows” things to happen.

Disappointments and tragedies can teach us to turn in trust to God for the hope and comfort we need. These experiences can also teach us patience and make us more sensitive to others who are suffering. Hard times can cause us to draw nearer to God and family(in your case brotha your wife and daughter), demonstrating that Christ lives in us even in the midst of our difficulties, inconveniences, trials, and suffering. These experiences also help develop the right attitude for Christian growth. Adversity is often seen as a way to develop resilience, endurance, and compassion. Just as physical exercise tears down muscles to make them stronger, trials can refine one's character and deepen trust. Many people have said that as they walked through deep pain and tragedies, they’ve felt God closer to them than ever before.

@KingoftheNorth14 ......Praying for you and your fam my friend.
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Amen!

I appreciate your words, thoughts, and prayers brother!
 
Wow, there's nothing I can say that hasn't already been said. You guys went very deep with this thread. It's interesting how adversity can bring the best out of people. Amazing words guys. King, I admire your mental perseverance and faith all will be alright in the end. Power and prayers to you brother. 🙏
 
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